To most of us, this topic of “Eulogy” seems quite morbid and dark. After all, it surrounds the subject of dying. And on this glorious day in my locale where there is a presence of fluffy white clouds in the blue skies, how the heck do I ponder on this subject? One reason is because I just learned that two close friends of mine just passed. One just celebrated her 90th birthday a month ago. Sadly, she died due to a heart ailment. The other was in his 30’s. He died due to complications with Covid-19).
And the sad news just kept on coming. You see, while I was giving my condolences, sharing and reflecting on the life of my dear girlfriend’s 90 year old mom’s passing, as soon as we bade each other goodbye, I read of the passing of media giant, Larry King. He was 87 years old. Larry King has left quite a legacy in the area of interviewing thousands of people including, regular folks, celebrities, politicians and others. That was his job. There’s no denying, he did so brilliantly and has made an indelible mark in that arena.
However, when you think about it, who was really the man behind the white shirt and suspenders? The dictionary defines “eulogy” as a speech in honor of someone who has passed or in some case still alive. It’s generally a commendation or high praise. Therefore, this speech comprises words that reflects on the person’s character and moral standing. It’s not to be confused with obituary which is like a biography of a person’s life.
Therefore, in this season of my life; our lives, somehow, I pondered the question, “What would my eulogy say about me; about you?” When you think about it, we’re all living our eulogy. Isn’t it uncanny how life intertwines death? We’re all living our eulogy. You know yourself. You’re aware of your standards and character. Who better than you could tell your story?
Thus, instead of leaving it to others when you pass, it’s best to start writing while we’re alive and in a cognitive state of mind. Why should you leave it to others to tell your life’s story; to write about you? The thing is, we are actually living and writing our eulogy. So, why not document it?
I should hope when I’m gone that my loved ones will express that I was a kind, spiritual, fearless, loving, generous, happy, passionate, compassionate, joyful, half-glass/half-full kind of a gal. I should hope that they would say that I left a positive foot-print behind and that I cared about not only my family and close friends but also anyone who crossed my path. Moreover, I loved others.
The question is, “What would your Eulogy say about you?” This exercise allows us to take a stock of our lives and choose to live our best lives. It teaches us to gather and spend valuable time with our loved ones and create awesome memories. It reminds us that life is short and we should endeavor to live in the “Now” and enjoy each and every moment. Moreover, have a positive impact on others who cross our paths. We are only here once, why not live your 100%? You owe it to yourself.